It is possible! Our children need to know it is possible.
In our society that is base on proof before belief, with kids we stress what they need to do without taking the time to help them understand why. They have come to expect and answer for their questions because that is what they have been exposed to in the model of child parent relationships on TV and in movies. They have a natural curiosity that we destroy by now engaging in instruction on what is appropriate to as and when it is appropriate to ask questions. We just tell them to go somewhere and sit down of even worst, we answer them without emphasizing our authority and position as a parent. This teaches them that they can question/ challenge authority and not respect it, therefore they don't know how to conduct themselves around other adults. With out regard to respect, there is no basis for proper relationships with teachers and other non-parents in the life of the child and no foundation for listening and obedience. No order created chaos and that is what in rampant in most schools.
So why am I talking about this when the topic in It's Possible? Simple. Our children don't receive instruction because they don't respect authority. No one can tell them anything. They only believe their parents or friends and not the ones who are paid to teach them. The have no reverence for school, education, or their future because they are too immature to evaluate what is important beyond there own selfish wants and desires. Therefore, they can't perceive with is possible.
People need many influences in there lives to become well rounded. The way our children are growing up, they are taought to listen to no one but their parents or guardian. Crazy when you think that most of thier time will be spent around other people when they reach school age. This breeds behavior that create massive distractions in the classroom. Because our children have no discipline, teacher spend the majority of the time trying to maintain order or just teaching the few kids that will listen. That is why our test scores are so low through out the country. Children are use to challenging the parent that a teacher, principle, police officer, of other authority figure posese no fear or challenge to them.
Their perception is so limited that what was possible is an impossibility. They lack information and have no vision. With out vision there action are without order and discipline. They cause chaos and disarray in whatever enviorment they are in and are expected to function well in this model. We need to do a better job instlling discipline and respect in them so that we can teach what is possible.
Thursday, August 18, 2011
What is the Real Challenge in our Education System.
To much of our focus in on curriculum. If you present information to someone, no matter how good it is, I will not be effective if the person is not paying attention. We spend a lot of time presenting information to kids a lot of different and creative ways yet we don't do enough to get their ear. I am not saying that curriculum is not important, I am emphasizing that relationship with the student is more important than to the process that provides the information itself. The best information in the world with not improve the level of intellect in the country because our kids are not interested in learning. So the real question would be how do we get students engaged?
Through working with kids over the years, I have noticed a phenomenon. There are some who are motivated, some who are interested, some who are uncertain, and some who just exist. Motivated students have the desire to learn and are willing to work at obtaining their education (this is not based on ability to comprehend information or master concept, this is the willingness to invest effort in learning). The Interested Student likes information only on certain topics. They only invest time into subjects the they find intriguing. Any topic outside of these areas they have no desire to invest in. Some are uncertain. They have no real grounding as to what will help them move through life effectively. They are not sure that education is what is needed to get them where they want to go or they have no trust in the validity of the benefits of pursuits in any particular area as a means to a desired end. Some students just exist which means that they are going through the motions. They have no aspiration or belief that they can achieve their desires without the need to invest in their education. This causes them to only do what is necessary to get by. These student often look for the first opportunity to escape and pursue something other than education.
This simply means that student will not invest in something that they don't know will help them achieve in the future. The only way to get them to invest in what they don't fully understand is through relationship. When there is value present, investment will logically follow. People are willing to invest in anything they know has real value. We tell them that education is where the value is but they will not comprehend that value because of there lack of maturity and experience at a particular time. There perception is their reality so changing that perception of value is the key to getting them to truly by in to the power of education. Sometimes that only comes through relationship.
The final part to this equation is the key to effecting change overall. Children have no ownershp over thier school identity. It is not something that they want to be a part of aside from having to go. There is no pride in what the school represents and their ability to impact the overall reputation or preception in a positive way. With no value in the school itself, there is no desire to striving to make a difference in the school. The impression of the school works against the student desire for affiliation with it. School becomes just a place they have to go instead of a conduit of growth in our youth. The lack of value in the image of the school, and a vistion of how they create the image of the school causes them to not invest if the school experience. They think of school and a destination and not a place to invest in. If children were engaged in the school experience, then the participation in events that effect how the school in veiwed would go up. They would have more pride in the schools performance because it is a representation of how they've made an impact overall. So the question is, How do we get them envolved?
Through working with kids over the years, I have noticed a phenomenon. There are some who are motivated, some who are interested, some who are uncertain, and some who just exist. Motivated students have the desire to learn and are willing to work at obtaining their education (this is not based on ability to comprehend information or master concept, this is the willingness to invest effort in learning). The Interested Student likes information only on certain topics. They only invest time into subjects the they find intriguing. Any topic outside of these areas they have no desire to invest in. Some are uncertain. They have no real grounding as to what will help them move through life effectively. They are not sure that education is what is needed to get them where they want to go or they have no trust in the validity of the benefits of pursuits in any particular area as a means to a desired end. Some students just exist which means that they are going through the motions. They have no aspiration or belief that they can achieve their desires without the need to invest in their education. This causes them to only do what is necessary to get by. These student often look for the first opportunity to escape and pursue something other than education.
This simply means that student will not invest in something that they don't know will help them achieve in the future. The only way to get them to invest in what they don't fully understand is through relationship. When there is value present, investment will logically follow. People are willing to invest in anything they know has real value. We tell them that education is where the value is but they will not comprehend that value because of there lack of maturity and experience at a particular time. There perception is their reality so changing that perception of value is the key to getting them to truly by in to the power of education. Sometimes that only comes through relationship.
The final part to this equation is the key to effecting change overall. Children have no ownershp over thier school identity. It is not something that they want to be a part of aside from having to go. There is no pride in what the school represents and their ability to impact the overall reputation or preception in a positive way. With no value in the school itself, there is no desire to striving to make a difference in the school. The impression of the school works against the student desire for affiliation with it. School becomes just a place they have to go instead of a conduit of growth in our youth. The lack of value in the image of the school, and a vistion of how they create the image of the school causes them to not invest if the school experience. They think of school and a destination and not a place to invest in. If children were engaged in the school experience, then the participation in events that effect how the school in veiwed would go up. They would have more pride in the schools performance because it is a representation of how they've made an impact overall. So the question is, How do we get them envolved?
Saturday, May 7, 2011
How do we rob God?
This is courtesy of Marcus Smith who share some amazing insight with me on this matter. These are my thoughts on the matter that I thought would provide a different perspective.
The scripture asks Will a Man Rob God? This is not really a question but a statement of fact. This is meant to cause thought or bring awareness to the fact that we are robbing God and may or may not know how. He says that we are robbing him through tithes and offerings. What does he mean? We think that it is just in the giving of tithes and offerings in accordance with the ordinances of God. Does tithes and offering cease when the ordinances change?
The perspective that I see this in is from the sense that God is our source and provider for all that we need. [Php_4:16-19 2Co_9:8 Luk_12:30-33 Mat_6:25-34 As part of this relationship, We are given the tools that we need to do what God expects us to. He Gave us purpose and with purpose comes responsibility. The tools that each of us were equipped with was for the purpose of completing a predestined assignment meant specifically for us and individual as a part of a greater plan. Eph_4:11 1Co_12:8-11 1Co_12:7 This forethought is why we are important. Jer_1:5 Rom_8:28-30 1Pe_5:10
One of the things on the list for us to do is to re-establish a relationship with God. This step is important to realizing our identity (who we are as God has established us, not as the world has defined us.) Our confidence is to stem from this understanding, and not from the confidence we have in our own strength. Jer_17:7 1Jn_5:14 This will change you self image and esteem for yourself transforming your thoughts into what God sees in you. We renew our mind constantly replacing what we have learned with new information to take us to another level. Rom_12:2 This shift in thinking is a life long endeavor. God values the purpose he has given you as a treasure and expects you to make it good on the call on your life. We rob God when we don't accomplish what he purposed us to do and lives are not saved. When we are in pursuit of the plan of God for our lives, He is the rewarder of those who diligently seek him and his call. It doesn't please God for us to squander our gifts as in the parable of the talents. As our tree bares fruit, He will continue to prosper us giving us the desires of our heart as it aligns with the call of our life. Mat_6:33
The scripture asks Will a Man Rob God? This is not really a question but a statement of fact. This is meant to cause thought or bring awareness to the fact that we are robbing God and may or may not know how. He says that we are robbing him through tithes and offerings. What does he mean? We think that it is just in the giving of tithes and offerings in accordance with the ordinances of God. Does tithes and offering cease when the ordinances change?
The perspective that I see this in is from the sense that God is our source and provider for all that we need. [Php_4:16-19 2Co_9:8 Luk_12:30-33 Mat_6:25-34 As part of this relationship, We are given the tools that we need to do what God expects us to. He Gave us purpose and with purpose comes responsibility. The tools that each of us were equipped with was for the purpose of completing a predestined assignment meant specifically for us and individual as a part of a greater plan. Eph_4:11 1Co_12:8-11 1Co_12:7 This forethought is why we are important. Jer_1:5 Rom_8:28-30 1Pe_5:10
One of the things on the list for us to do is to re-establish a relationship with God. This step is important to realizing our identity (who we are as God has established us, not as the world has defined us.) Our confidence is to stem from this understanding, and not from the confidence we have in our own strength. Jer_17:7 1Jn_5:14 This will change you self image and esteem for yourself transforming your thoughts into what God sees in you. We renew our mind constantly replacing what we have learned with new information to take us to another level. Rom_12:2 This shift in thinking is a life long endeavor. God values the purpose he has given you as a treasure and expects you to make it good on the call on your life. We rob God when we don't accomplish what he purposed us to do and lives are not saved. When we are in pursuit of the plan of God for our lives, He is the rewarder of those who diligently seek him and his call. It doesn't please God for us to squander our gifts as in the parable of the talents. As our tree bares fruit, He will continue to prosper us giving us the desires of our heart as it aligns with the call of our life. Mat_6:33
Saturday, March 26, 2011
What good is having tools if you don't use them?
Most of these blogs come from personal experience and self introspection. I have come to the understanding that we as people don't use what we have and therefore suffer needlessly in situations that we have the ability to change. For a long time I used the excuse that I didn't know, I was not aware, I need help, if I could find someone to talk things through, and so on. I justified my lack of achievement by focusing on what I did not have, but I never looked at what I did have. My focus kept me in lack and mediocrity. I never allowed myself an opportunity to grow and expand beyond where I was at the time. I am still daily overcoming this revelation by the way. People talk to me and see the potential of what I can do and are willing to put their confidence in me concerning important task they need to have done. What is it that they see? My tools! They can visualize what they would do if they had what I have. Isn't that amazing? They have confidence in what they see that I have, but I have it and can't see the potential of it. Many of us are like this, so what is the solution. aAt some point we have to become aware of what we have. We have to value the tools that we were given and start to use them in a way that will help other people. We have to develop some purpose and identity based on what makes us different and special. If we start with these basic strategies, we will start to experience positive and favorable solutions in our lives and in the lives of the people we help. I would call that a great way to learn the value that we have as we assist others using our tools. In the end, we are the warehouse for the tools that we have in our possession and are gifted to use them, not for ourselves, but for the benefit of others. Our value comes partly in what we can add to this world, not from what we can hold on to. What good is having tools if you don't use them. That would just be a waste.
Sunday, March 20, 2011
What does it take for you a achieve success?
If there was a easy formula for success then everyone would achieve it. What I have discovered is that success is not what is ordinarily defined by people. There are many people when asked the question,"What are some of the keywords to success?" would formulate a list of words like:
Diligence, Hard work, Consistency, Effort, Goals, Heart, Desire, Positive, Persistence, Determination, Reliability, Responsibility, Delegation, Support, Direction, Purpose, Accomplishments, Coaching, Supervision, Leadership, Pursuit, Instruction, Decisions, Choices, Confidence, Solutions, Resources, Targets, Values, Ethics, Perspective, Outlook, Character, Challenges, Communication...... and so on and so on. As an exercise, if you said, __________ is a key to success. [using a word from the list above. I am sure that you would agree that these words are often used as a key part to the success process. What if I said that none of these words singularly or grouped together would not guarantee success. Now before you have an attack of some kind or totally think that I am crazy, please hear me out. There us one thing that ties all of these concepts together that will assure your success. That word is system. Let's try it out. Say this,"___________itself will not guarantee success but _____________ plus a system will. [for the blank you can use any combination of terms above and this will still be true.] Please try this out and send me you comment about what you discover and fill free to include any other words that you feel will enhance the list.
As always, I strive to keep you thinking.
DC
Diligence, Hard work, Consistency, Effort, Goals, Heart, Desire, Positive, Persistence, Determination, Reliability, Responsibility, Delegation, Support, Direction, Purpose, Accomplishments, Coaching, Supervision, Leadership, Pursuit, Instruction, Decisions, Choices, Confidence, Solutions, Resources, Targets, Values, Ethics, Perspective, Outlook, Character, Challenges, Communication...... and so on and so on. As an exercise, if you said, __________ is a key to success. [using a word from the list above. I am sure that you would agree that these words are often used as a key part to the success process. What if I said that none of these words singularly or grouped together would not guarantee success. Now before you have an attack of some kind or totally think that I am crazy, please hear me out. There us one thing that ties all of these concepts together that will assure your success. That word is system. Let's try it out. Say this,"___________itself will not guarantee success but _____________ plus a system will. [for the blank you can use any combination of terms above and this will still be true.] Please try this out and send me you comment about what you discover and fill free to include any other words that you feel will enhance the list.
As always, I strive to keep you thinking.
DC
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Money Matters 2
Here is more information for those who may be interested. Let's explore the validity of this information. I could change how you do business in this economy.
What is Love Not?
People over the years have been conditioned, educated, and influence to put love in a number of categories’ and give it a cookie cutter definition that, in most cases falls short of the totality of what love is. Here are some thoughts on the topic that may spark conversation.
Let’s look at what love is not.
Here is a list:
Affection
Emotion
Feelings
Intimacy
Making love (including sex of forms of intercourse)
Sacrifice
Giving
Being kind
Mercy
Caring
Blind
This short list are some of the common uses for the meaning of love, but these are nothing more than ways that we express love one toward another.
Love is demonstrated through action and consistent behavior.
Love is a choice- it comes from a sense of comfort, familiarity, attraction, or kinship, (a connection expressed or experienced between) between individuals.
As relationships develop, a key point would be The Rules of Interaction. What is expressed in action is a byproduct of the rules of the relationship, (type of interaction) chosen by individuals. Love is internal, external; it is only limited by our choices, decision, view, agreement, and thoughts.
What is Love’s source? [God, Holy Spirit, and your will.]
Love is a motivation to act.
Making love is a decision to act in a way that expresses what you understand love to be.
Puppy love is an identification of desire to be involved with someone for the purpose of expressing what you think love is.
Being in love is a decision to express what you think love is choosing to commit yourself to a person or thing and being willing to do whatever you believe it takes to make and keep that interaction.
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